1 Boast not thyself of to morrow; for thou knowest not what a day may bring forth.
Here is, 1. A good caution against
presuming upon time to come: Boast not thyself, no, not
of to-morrow, much less of many days or years to come. This
does not forbid preparing for to-morrow, but presuming upon
to-morrow. We must not promise ourselves the continuance of our
lives and comforts till to-morrow, but speak of it with submission
to the will of God and as those who with good reason are kept at
uncertainty about it. We must not take thought for the
morrow (
2 Let another man praise thee, and not thine own mouth; a stranger, and not thine own lips.
Note, 1. We must do that which is
commendable, for which even strangers may praise us. Our
light must shine before men, and we must do good
works that may be seen, though we must not do them on purpose that
they may be seen. Let our own works be such as will praise us, even
in the gates,
3 A stone is heavy, and the sand weighty; but a fool's wrath is heavier than them both. 4 Wrath is cruel, and anger is outrageous; but who is able to stand before envy?
These two verses show the intolerable mischief, 1. Of ungoverned passion. The wrath of a fool, who when he is provoked cares not what he says and does, is more grievous than a great stone or a load of sand. It lies heavily upon himself. Those who have no command of their passions do themselves even sink under the load of them. The wrath of a fool lies heavily upon those he is enraged at, to whom, in his fury, he will be in danger of doing some mischief. It is therefore our wisdom not to give provocation to a fool, but, if he be in a passion, to get out of his way. 2. Of rooted malice, which is as much worse than the former as coals of juniper are worse than a fire of thorns. Wrath (it is true) is cruel, and does many a barbarous thing, and anger is outrageous; but a secret enmity at the person of another, an envy at his prosperity, and a desire of revenge for some injury or affront, are much more mischievous. One may avoid a sudden heat, as David escaped Saul's javelin, but when it grows, as Saul's did, to a settled envy, there is no standing before it; it will pursue; it will overtake. He that grieves at the good of another will be still contriving to do him hurt, and will keep his anger for ever.
5 Open rebuke is better than secret love. 6 Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.
Note, 1. It is good for us to be reproved,
and told of our faults, by our friends. If true love in the heart
has but zeal and courage enough to show itself in dealing plainly
with our friends, and reproving them for what they say and do
amiss, this is really better, not only than secret hatred
(as
7 The full soul loatheth an honeycomb; but to the hungry soul every bitter thing is sweet.
Solomon here, as often in this book, shows
that the poor have in some respects the advantage of the rich; for,
1. They have a better relish of their enjoyments than the rich
have. Hunger is the best sauce. Coarse fare, with a good appetite
to it has a sensible pleasantness in it, which those are strangers
to whose hearts are overcharged with surfeiting. Those that
fare sumptuously every day nauseate even delicate food, as the
Israelites did the quails; whereas those that have no more than
their necessary food, though it be such as the full soul
would call bitter, to them it is sweet; they eat it
with pleasure, digest it, and are refreshed by it. 2. They are more
thankful for their enjoyments: The hungry will bless God for
bread and water, while those that are full think the
greatest dainties and varieties scarcely worth giving thanks for.
The virgin Mary seems to refer to this when she says (
8 As a bird that wandereth from her nest, so is a man that wandereth from his place.
Note, 1. There are many that do not know when they are well off, but are uneasy with their present condition, and given to change. God, in his providence, has appointed them a place fit for them and has made it comfortable to them; but they affect unsettledness; they love to wander; they are glad of a pretence to go abroad, and do not care for staying long at a place; they needlessly absent themselves from their own work and care, and meddle with that which belongs not to them. 2. Those that thus desert the post assigned to them are like a bird that wanders from her nest. It is an instance of their folly; they are like a silly bird; they are always wavering, like the wandering bird that hops from bough to bough and rests nowhere. It is unsafe; the bird that wanders is exposed; a man's place is his castle; he that quits it makes himself an easy prey to the fowler. When the bird wanders from her nest the eggs and young ones there are neglected. Those that love to be abroad leave their work at home undone. Let every man therefore, in the calling wherein he is called, therein abide, therein abide with God.
9 Ointment and perfume rejoice the heart: so doth the sweetness of a man's friend by hearty counsel. 10 Thine own friend, and thy father's friend, forsake not; neither go into thy brother's house in the day of thy calamity: for better is a neighbour that is near than a brother far off.
Here is, 1. A charge given to be faithful
and constant to our friends, our old friends, to keep up an
intimacy with them, and to be ready to do them all the offices that
lie in our power. It is good to have a friend, a bosom-friend, whom
we can be free with, and with whom we may communicate counsels. It
is not necessary that this friend should be a relation, or any way
akin to us, though it is happiest when, among those who are so, we
find one fit to make a friend of. Peter and Andrew were brethren,
so were James and John; yet Solomon frequently distinguishes
between a friend and a brother. But it is advisable to choose a
friend among our neighbours who live near us, that acquaintance may
be kept up and kindnesses the more frequently interchanged. It is
good also to have a special respect to those who have been friends
to our family: "Thy own friend, especially if he have been
thy father's friend, forsake not; fail not both to serve him
and to use him, as there is occasion. He is a tried friend; he
knows thy affairs; he has a particular concern for thee; therefore
be advised by him." It is a duty we owe to our parents, when they
are gone, to love their friends and consult with them. Solomon's
son undid himself by forsaking the counsel of his father's friends.
2. A good reason given why we should thus value true friendship and
be choice of it. (1.) Because of the pleasure of it. There is a
great deal of sweetness in conversing and consulting with a
cordial friend. It is like ointment and perfume, which are
very grateful to the smell, and exhilarate the spirits. It
rejoices the heart; the burden of care is made lighter by
unbosoming ourselves to our friend, and it is a great satisfaction
to us to have his sentiments concerning our affairs. The
sweetness of friendship lies not in hearty mirth, and hearty
laughter, but in hearty counsel, faithful advice, sincerely
given and without flattery, by counsel of the soul (so the
word is), counsel which reaches the case, and comes to the heart,
counsel about soul-concerns,
11 My son, be wise, and make my heart glad, that I may answer him that reproacheth me.
Children are here exhorted to be wise and
good, 1. That they may be a comfort to their parents and may
make their hearts glad, even when the evil days come,
and so recompense them for their care,
12 A prudent man foreseeth the evil, and hideth himself; but the simple pass on, and are punished.
This we had before,
13 Take his garment that is surety for a stranger, and take a pledge of him for a strange woman.
This also we had before,
14 He that blesseth his friend with a loud voice, rising early in the morning, it shall be counted a curse to him.
Note, 1. It is a great folly to be
extravagant in praising even the best of our friends and
benefactors. It is our duty to give every one his due praise, to
applaud those who excel in knowledge, virtue, and usefulness, and
to acknowledge the kindnesses we have received with thankfulness;
but to do this with a loud voice, rising early in the
morning, to be always harping on this string, in all companies,
even to our friend's face, or so as that he may be sure to hear it,
to do it studiously, as we do that which we rise early to, to
magnify the merits of our friend above measure and with hyperboles,
is fulsome, and nauseous, and savours of hypocrisy and design.
Praising men for what they have done is only to get more out of
them; and every body concludes the parasite hopes to be well paid
for his panegyric or epistle dedicatory. We must not give that
praise to our friend which is due to God only, as some think is
intimated in rising early to do it; for in the morning God
is to be praised. We must not make too much haste to praise
men (so some understand it), not cry up men too soon for their
abilities and performances, but let them first be proved; lest they
be lifted up with pride, and laid to sleep in idleness. 2. It is a
greater folly to be fond of being ourselves extravagantly praised.
A wise man rather counts it a curse, and a reflection upon
him, not only designed to pick his pocket, but which may really
turn to his prejudice. Modest praises (as a great man observes)
invite such as are present to add to the commendation, but immodest
immoderate praises tempt them to detract rather, and to censure one
that they hear over-commended. And, besides, over-praising a man
makes him the object of envy; every man puts in for a share of
reputation, and therefore reckons himself injured if another
monopolize it or have more given him than his share. And the
greatest danger of all is that it is a temptation to pride; men are
apt to think of themselves above what is meet when others speak of
them above what is meet. See how careful blessed Paul was not to be
over-valued,
15 A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike. 16 Whosoever hideth her hideth the wind, and the ointment of his right hand, which bewrayeth itself.
Here, as before, Solomon laments the case
of him that has a peevish passionate wife, that is continually
chiding, and making herself and all about her uneasy. 1. It is a
grievance that there is no avoiding, for it is like a continual
dropping in a very rainy day. The contentions of a neighbour
may be like a sharp shower, troublesome for the time, yet, while it
lasts, one may take shelter; but the contentions of a wife
are like a constant soaking rain, for which there is no remedy but
patience See
17 Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend.
This intimates both the pleasure and the advantage of conversation. One man is nobody; nor will poring upon a book in a corner accomplish a man as the reading and studying of men will. Wise and profitable discourse sharpens men's wits; and those that have ever so much knowledge may by conference have something added to them. It sharpens men's looks, and, by cheering the spirits, puts a briskness and liveliness into the countenance, and gives a man such an air as shows he is pleased himself and makes him pleasing to those about him. Good men's graces are sharpened by converse with those that are good, and bad men's lusts and passions are sharpened by converse with those that are bad, as iron is sharpened by its like, especially by the file. Men are filed, made smooth, and bright, and fit for business (who were rough, and dull, and inactive), by conversation. This is designed, 1. To recommend to us this expedient for sharpening ourselves, but with a caution to take heed whom we choose to converse with, because the influence upon us is so great either for the better or for the worse. 2. To direct us what we must have in our eye in conversation, namely to improve both others and ourselves, not to pass away time or banter one another, but to provoke one another to love and to good works and so to make one another wiser and better.
18 Whoso keepeth the fig tree shall eat the fruit thereof: so he that waiteth on his master shall be honoured.
This is designed to encourage diligence,
faithfulness, and constancy, even in mean employments. Though the
calling be laborious and despicable, yet those who keep to it will
find there is something to be got by it. 1. Let not a poor
gardener, who keeps the fig-tree, be discouraged; though it
require constant care and attendance to nurse up fig-trees, and,
when they have grown to maturity, to keep them in good order, and
gather the figs in their season, yet he shall be paid for his
pains: He shall eat the fruit of it,
19 As in water face answereth to face, so the heart of man to man.
This shows us that there is a way, 1. Of
knowing ourselves. As the water is a looking-glass in which we may
see our faces by reflection, so there are mirrors by which the
heart of a man is discovered to a man, that is, to
himself. Let a man examine his own conscience, his thoughts,
affections, and intentions. Let him behold his natural face in
the glass of the divine law (
20 Hell and destruction are never full; so the eyes of man are never satisfied.
Two things are here said to be insatiable,
and they are two things near of kin—death and sin. 1. Death is
insatiable. The first death, the second death, both are so. The
grave is not clogged with the multitude of dead bodies that are
daily thrown into it, but is still an open sepulchre, and
cries, Give, give. Hell also has enlarged itself, and still
has room for the damned spirits that are committed to that prison.
Tophet is deep and large,
21 As the fining pot for silver, and the furnace for gold; so is a man to his praise.
This gives us a touchstone by which we may
try ourselves. Silver and gold are tried by putting them into the
furnace and fining-pot; so is man tried by praising him. Let him be
extolled and preferred, and then he will show himself what he is.
1. If a man be made, by the applause that is given him, proud,
conceited, and scornful,—if he take the glory to himself which he
should transmit to God, as Herod did,—if, the more he is praised,
the more careless he is of what he says and does,—if he lie in
bed till noon because his name is up, thereby it will
appear that he is a vain foolish man, and a man who, though he be
praised, has nothing in him truly praise-worthy. 2. If, on the
contrary, a man is made by his praise more thankful to God, more
respectful to his friends, more watchful against every thing that
may blemish his reputation, more diligent to improve himself, and
do good to others, that he may answer the expectations of his
friends from him, by this it will appear that he is a wise and good
man. He has a good temper of mind who knows how to pass by evil
report and good report, and is still the same,
22 Though thou shouldest bray a fool in a mortar among wheat with a pestle, yet will not his foolishness depart from him.
Solomon had said (
23 Be thou diligent to know the state of thy flocks, and look well to thy herds. 24 For riches are not for ever: and doth the crown endure to every generation? 25 The hay appeareth, and the tender grass sheweth itself, and herbs of the mountains are gathered. 26 The lambs are for thy clothing, and the goats are the price of the field. 27 And thou shalt have goats' milk enough for thy food, for the food of thy household, and for the maintenance for thy maidens.
Here is, I. A command given us to be diligent in our callings. It is directed to husbandmen and shepherds, and those that deal in cattle, but it is to be extended to all other lawful callings; whatever our business is, within doors or without, we must apply our minds to it. This command intimates, 1. That we ought to have some business to do in this world and not to live in idleness. 2. We ought rightly and fully to understand our business, and know what we have to do, and not meddle with that which we do not understand. 3. We ought to have an eye to it ourselves, and not turn over all the care of it to others. We should, with our own eyes, inspect the state of our flocks, it is the master's eye that makes them fat. 4. We must be discreet and considerate in the management of our business, know the state of things, and look well to them, that nothing may be lost, no opportunity let slip, but every thing done in proper time and order, and so as to turn to the best advantage. 5. We must be diligent and take pains; not only sit down and contrive, but be up and doing: "Set thy heart to thy herds, as one in care; lay thy hands, lay thy bones, to thy business."
II. The reasons to enforce this command. Consider,
1. The uncertainty of worldly wealth
(
2. The bounty and liberality of nature, or
rather of the God of nature, and his providence (
3. The profit of good husbandry in a
family: "Keep thy sheep, and thy sheep will help to keep thee; thou
shalt have food for thy children and servants, goats' milk
enough (