1 When thou sittest to eat with a ruler, consider diligently what is before thee: 2 And put a knife to thy throat, if thou be a man given to appetite. 3 Be not desirous of his dainties: for they are deceitful meat.
The sin we are here warned against is
luxury and sensuality, and the indulgence of the appetite in eating
and drinking, a sin that most easily besets us. 1. We are here told
when we enter into temptation, and are in most danger of falling
into this sin: "When thou sittest to eat with a ruler thou
has great plenty before thee, varieties and dainties, such a table
spread as thou has seldom seen; thou are ready to think, as Haman
did, of nothing but the honour hereby done thee (
4 Labour not to be rich: cease from thine own wisdom. 5 Wilt thou set thine eyes upon that which is not? for riches certainly make themselves wings; they fly away as an eagle toward heaven.
As some are given to appetite (
I. How he dissuades the covetous man from
toiling and tormenting himself (
II. How he dissuades the covetous man from cheating and deceiving himself by an inordinate love and pursuit of that which is vanity and vexation of spirit; for,
1. It is not substantial and satisfying: "Wilt thou be such a fool as to set thy eyes, to cause thy eyes to fly with eagerness and violence, upon that which is not?" Note, (1.) The things of this world are things that are not. They have a real existence in nature and are the real gifts of Providence, but in the kingdom of grace they are things that are not; they are not a happiness and portion for a soul, are not what they promise to be nor what we expect them to be; they are a show, a shadow, a sham upon the soul that trusts to them. They are not, for in a little while they will not be, they will not be ours; they perish in the using; the fashion of them passes away. (2.) It is therefore folly for us to set our eyes upon them, to admire them as the best things, to appropriate them to ourselves as our good things, and to aim at them as our mark at which all our actions are levelled, to fly upon them as the eagle upon her prey. "Wilt thou do a thing so absurd in itself? What thou, a reasonable creature, wilt thou dote upon shadows? The eyes are put for rational and intellectual powers; wilt thou throw those away upon such undeserving objects? To set the hands and feet upon the world is well enough, but not the eyes, the eyes of the mind; those were made to contemplate better things. Wilt thou, my son, that professest religion, put such an affront upon God (towards whom the eyes should ever be) and such an abuse upon thy soul?"
2. It is not durable and abiding. Riches
are very uncertain things; certainly they are so: They make
themselves wings, and fly away. The more we cause our eyes to
fly upon them the more likely they are to fly away from us. (1.)
Riches will leave us. Those that hold them ever so fast cannot hold
them long; either they must be taken from us or we must be taken
from them. The goods are said to flow away as a stream (
6 Eat thou not the bread of him that hath an evil eye, neither desire thou his dainty meats: 7 For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he: Eat and drink, saith he to thee; but his heart is not with thee. 8 The morsel which thou hast eaten shalt thou vomit up, and lose thy sweet words.
Those that are voluptuous and given to
appetite (
9 Speak not in the ears of a fool: for he will despise the wisdom of thy words.
We are here directed not to cast pearls
before swine (
10 Remove not the old landmark; and enter not into the fields of the fatherless: 11 For their redeemer is mighty; he shall plead their cause with thee.
Note, 1. The fatherless are taken under
God's special protection; with him they not only find mercy shown
to them (
12 Apply thine heart unto instruction, and thine ears to the words of knowledge. 13 Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. 14 Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell. 15 My son, if thine heart be wise, my heart shall rejoice, even mine. 16 Yea, my reins shall rejoice, when thy lips speak right things.
Here is, 1. A parent instructing his child.
He is here brought in persuading him to give his mind to his book,
and especially to the scriptures and his catechism, to attend to
the words of knowledge, by which he might come to know his
duty, and danger, and interest, and not to think it enough to give
them the hearing, but to apply his heart to them, to delight in
them, and bow his will to the authority of them. The heart is
then applied to the instruction when the instruction is
applied to the heart. 2. A parent correcting his child. A tender
parent can scarcely find in his heart to do this; it goes much
against the grain. But he finds it is necessary; it is his duty,
and therefore he dares not withhold correction when there is
occasion for it (spare the rod and spoil the child); he
beats him with the rod, gives him a gentle correction, the
stripes of the sons of men, not such as we give to beasts.
Beat him with the rod and he shall not die. The rod will not
kill him; nay, it will prevent his killing himself by those vicious
courses which the rod will be necessary to restrain him from. For
the present it is not joyous, but grievous, both to the
parent and to the child; but when it is given with wisdom, designed
for good, accompanied with prayer, and blessed of God, it may prove
a happy means of preventing his utter destruction and delivering
his soul from hell. Our great care must be about our children's
souls; we must not see them in danger of hell without using all
possible means, with the utmost care and concern, to snatch them as
brands out of everlasting burnings. Let the body smart, so that the
spirit be saved in the day of the Lord Jesus. 3. A parent
encouraging his child, telling him, (1.) What was all he expected,
nothing but what would be for his own good, that his heart be
wise and that his lips speak right things, that he be
under the government of good principles, and that by those
principles he particularly maintain a good environment of his
tongue. It is to be hoped that those will do right things
when they grow up who learn to speak right things when they
are young, and dare not speak any bad words. (2.) What a comfort it
would be to him if herein he answered his expectation: "If thy
heart be wise, my heart shall rejoice, shall rejoice in thee,
even mine, who have taken so much care and pains about thee,
my heart, that has many a time ached for thee, for which thou
shouldst study thus to make a grateful requital." Note, The wisdom
of children will be the joy of their parents and teachers, who have
no greater joy than to see them walk in the truth,
17 Let not thine heart envy sinners: but be thou in the fear of the Lord all the day long. 18 For surely there is an end; and thine expectation shall not be cut off.
Here is, 1. A necessary caution against
entertaining any favourable thoughts of prospering profaneness:
"Let not thy heart envy sinners; do not grudge them either
the liberty they take to sin or the success they are to be pitied
rather than envied. Their prosperity is their portion (
19 Hear thou, my son, and be wise, and guide thine heart in the way. 20 Be not among winebibbers; among riotous eaters of flesh: 21 For the drunkard and the glutton shall come to poverty: and drowsiness shall clothe a man with rags. 22 Hearken unto thy father that begat thee, and despise not thy mother when she is old. 23 Buy the truth, and sell it not; also wisdom, and instruction, and understanding. 24 The father of the righteous shall greatly rejoice: and he that begetteth a wise child shall have joy of him. 25 Thy father and thy mother shall be glad, and she that bare thee shall rejoice. 26 My son, give me thine heart, and let thine eyes observe my ways. 27 For a whore is a deep ditch; and a strange woman is a narrow pit. 28 She also lieth in wait as for a prey, and increaseth the transgressors among men.
Here is good advice for parents to give to their children; words are put into their mouths, that they may train them up in the way they should go. Here we have,
I. An earnest call to young people to
attend to the advice of their godly parents, not only to this that
is here given, but to all other profitable instructions: "Here,
my son, and be wise,
II. An argument to enforce this call, taken
from the great comfort which this will be to their parents,
III. Some general precepts of wisdom and virtue.
1. Guide thy heart in the way,
2. Buy the truth and sell it not,
3. Give me thy heart,
4. Let thy eyes observe my ways; have an eye to the rule of God's word, the conduct of his providence, and the good examples of his people. Our eyes must observe these, as he that writes observes his copy, that we may keep in the right paths and may proceed and persevere in them.
IV. Some particular cautions against those
sins which are, of all sins, the most destructive to the seeds of
wisdom and grace in the soul, which impoverish and ruin it. 1.
Gluttony and drunkenness,
29 Who hath woe? who hath sorrow? who hath contentions? who hath babbling? who hath wounds without cause? who hath redness of eyes? 30 They that tarry long at the wine; they that go to seek mixed wine. 31 Look not thou upon the wine when it is red, when it giveth his colour in the cup, when it moveth itself aright. 32 At the last it biteth like a serpent, and stingeth like an adder. 33 Thine eyes shall behold strange women, and thine heart shall utter perverse things. 34 Yea, thou shalt be as he that lieth down in the midst of the sea, or as he that lieth upon the top of a mast. 35 They have stricken me, shalt thou say, and I was not sick; they have beaten me, and I felt it not: when shall I awake? I will seek it yet again.
Solomon here gives fair warning against the
sin of drunkenness, to confirm what he had said,
I. He cautions all people to keep out of
the way of temptations to this sin (
II. He shows the many pernicious
consequences of the sin of drunkenness, for the enforcement of this
caution. Take heed of the bait, for fear of the hook: At the
last it bites,
1. It embroils men in quarrels, makes them
quarrel with others, and say and do that which gives others
occasion to quarrel with them,
2. It makes men impure and insolent,
3. It stupefies and besots men,
4. Worst of all, the heart is hardened in
the sin, and the sinner, notwithstanding all these present
mischiefs that attend it, obstinately persist in it, and hates to
be reformed: When shall I awake? Much ado he has to shake
off the chains of his drunken sleep; he can hardly get clear of the
fumes of the wine, though he strives with them, that (being thirsty
in the morning) he may return to it again. So perfectly lost is he
to all sense of virtue and honour, and so wretchedly is his
conscience seared, that he is not ashamed to say, I will seek it
yet again. There is no hope; no, they have loved drunkards, and
after them they will go,