In this chapter the apostle answers some cases
proposed to him by the Corinthians about marriage. He, I. Shows
them that marriage was appointed as a remedy against fornication,
and therefore that persons had better marry than burn,
1 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. 6 But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment. 7 For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that. 8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. 9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.
The apostle comes now, as a faithful and
skilful casuist, to answer some cases of conscience which the
Corinthians had proposed to him. Those were things whereof they
wrote to him,
I. That it was good, in that juncture of time at least, to abstain from marriage altogether: It is good for a man not to touch a woman (not to take her to wife), by good here not understanding what is so conformable to the mind and will of God as if to do otherwise were sin, an extreme into which many of the ancients have run in favour of celibacy and virginity. Should the apostle be understood in this sense, he would contradict much of the rest of his discourse. But it is good, that is, either abstracting from circumstances there are many things in which the state of celibacy has the advantage above the marriage state; or else at this juncture, by reason of the distress of the Christian church, it would be a convenience for Christians to keep themselves single, provided they have the gift of continency, and at the same time can keep themselves chaste. The expression also may carry in it an intimation that Christians must avoid all occasions of this sin, and flee all fleshly lusts, and incentives to them; must neither look on nor touch a woman, so as to provoke lustful inclinations. Yet,
II. He informs them that marriage, and the
comforts and satisfactions of that state, are by divine wisdom
prescribed for preventing fornication (
III. The apostle limits what he had said
about every man's having his own wife, &c. (
IV. He sums up his sense on this head
(
10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: 11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. 12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. 13 And the woman which hath a husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. 15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. 16 For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?
In this paragraph the apostle gives them
direction in a case which must be very frequent in that age of the
world, especially among the Jewish converts; I mean whether they
were to live with heathen relatives in a married state. Moses's law
permitted divorce; and there was a famous instance in the Jewish
state, when the people were obliged to put away their idolatrous
wives,
I. In general, he tells them that marriage,
by Christ's command, is for life; and therefore those who are
married must not think of separation. The wife must not depart
from the husband (
II. He brings the general advice home to
the case of such as had an unbelieving mate (
1. To the advice itself, which is that if
an unbelieving husband or wife were pleased to dwell with a
Christian relative, the other should not separate. The husband
should not put away an unbelieving wife, nor the wife leave an
unbelieving husband,
2. We have here the reasons of this advice.
(1.) Because the relation or state is sanctified by the holiness of
either party: For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the
wife, and the unbelieving wife by the husband (
17 But as God hath distributed to every man, as the Lord hath called every one, so let him walk. And so ordain I in all churches. 18 Is any man called being circumcised? let him not become uncircumcised. Is any called in uncircumcision? let him not be circumcised. 19 Circumcision is nothing, and uncircumcision is nothing, but the keeping of the commandments of God. 20 Let every man abide in the same calling wherein he was called. 21 Art thou called being a servant? care not for it: but if thou mayest be made free, use it rather. 22 For he that is called in the Lord, being a servant, is the Lord's freeman: likewise also he that is called, being free, is Christ's servant. 23 Ye are bought with a price; be not ye the servants of men. 24 Brethren, let every man, wherein he is called, therein abide with God.
Here the apostle takes occasion to advise them to continue in the state and condition in which Christianity found them, and in which they became converts to it. And here,
I. He lays down this rule in general—as God hath distributed to every one. Note, Our states and circumstances in this world are distributions of divine Providence. This fixes the bounds of men's habitations, and orders their steps. God setteth up and pulleth down. And again, As the Lord hath called every one, so let him walk. Whatever his circumstances or condition was when he was converted to Christianity, let him abide therein, and suit his conversation to it. The rules of Christianity reach every condition. And in every state a man may live so as to be a credit to it. Note, It is the duty of every Christian to suit his behaviour to his condition and the rules of religion, to be content with his lot, and conduct himself in his rank and place as becomes a Christian. The apostle adds that this was a general rule, to be observed at all times and in all places; So ordain I in all churches.
II. He specifies particular cases; as, 1.
That of circumcision. Is any man called being circumcised? Let
him not be uncircumcised. Is any man called being uncircumcised?
Let him not be circumcised. It matters not whether a man be a
Jew or Gentile, within the covenant of peculiarity made with
Abraham or without it. He who is converted, being a Jew, has no
need to give himself uneasiness upon that head, and wish himself
uncircumcised. Nor, is he who is converted from Gentilism under an
obligation to be circumcised: nor should he be concerned because he
wants that mark of distinction which did heretofore belong to the
people of God. For, as the apostle goes on, circumcision is
nothing, and uncircumcision is nothing, but keeping the
commandments of God,
III. He sums up his advice: Let every
man wherein he is called abide therein with God,
25 Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord: yet I give my judgment, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful. 26 I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress, I say, that it is good for a man so to be. 27 Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife. 28 But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you. 29 But this I say, brethren, the time is short: it remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none; 30 And they that weep, as though they wept not; and they that rejoice, as though they rejoiced not; and they that buy, as though they possessed not; 31 And they that use this world, as not abusing it: for the fashion of this world passeth away. 32 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: 33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. 34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband. 35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.
The apostle here resumes his discourse, and gives directions to virgins how to act, concerning which we may take notice,
I. Of the manner wherein he introduces
them: "Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the
Lord,
II. The determination he gives, which,
considering the present distress, was that a state of celibacy was
preferable: It is good for a man so to be, that is, to be
single. I suppose, says the apostle, or it is my opinion. It is
worded with modesty, but delivered, notwithstanding, with apostolic
authority. It is not the mere opinion of a private man, but the
very determination of the Spirit of God in an apostle, though it be
thus spoken. And it was thus delivered to give it the more weight.
Those that were prejudiced against the apostle might have rejected
this advice had it been given with a mere authoritative air. Note,
Ministers do not lose their authority by prudent condescensions.
They must become all things to all men, that they may do them the
more good. This is good, says he, for the present
distress. Christians, at the first planting of their religion,
were grievously persecuted. Their enemies were very bitter against
them, and treated them very cruelly. They were continually liable
to be tossed and hurried by persecution. This being the then state
of things, he did not think it so advisable for Christians that
were single to change conditions. The married state would bring
more care and cumber along with it (
III. Notwithstanding he thus determines, he is very careful to satisfy them that he does not condemn marriage in the gross, nor declare it unlawful. And therefore, though he says, "If thou art loosed from a wife (in a single state, whether bachelor or widower, virgin or widow) do not seek a wife, do not hastily change conditions;" yet he adds, "If thou art bound to a wife, do not seek to be loosed. It is thy duty to continue in the married relation, and do the duties of it." And though such, if they were called to suffer persecution, would find peculiar difficulties in it; yet, to avoid these difficulties, they must not cast off nor break through the bonds of duty. Duty must be done, and God trusted with events. But to neglect duty is the way to put ourselves out of the divine protection. He adds therefore, I thou marry thou hast not sinned; or if a virgin marry she hath not sinned: but such shall have trouble in the flesh. Marrying is not in itself a sin, but marrying at that time was likely to bring inconvenience upon them, and add to the calamities of the times; and therefore he thought it advisable and expedient that such as could contain should refrain from it; but adds that he would not lay celibacy on them as a yoke, nor, by seeming to urge it too far, draw them into any snare; and therefore says, But I spare you. Note, How opposite in this are the papist casuists to the apostle Paul! They forbid many to marry, and entangle them with vows of celibacy, whether they can bear the yoke or no.
IV. He takes this occasion to give general
rules to all Christians to carry themselves with a holy
indifferency towards the world, and every thing in it. 1. As to
relations: Those that had wives must be as though they had
none; that is, they must not set their hearts too much on the
comforts of the relation; they must be as though they had none.
They know not how soon they shall have none. This advice must be
carried into every other relation. Those that have children should
be as though they had none. Those that are their comfort now may
prove their greatest cross. And soon may the flower of all comforts
be cut down. 2. As to afflictions: Those that weep must be as
though they wept not; that is, we must not be dejected too much
with any of our afflictions, nor indulge ourselves in the sorrow of
the world, but keep up a holy joy in God in the midst of all our
troubles, so that even in sorrow the heart may be joyful, and the
end of our grief may be gladness. Weeping may endure for a
night, but joy will come in the morning. If we can but get to
heaven at last, all tears shall be wiped from our eyes; and
the prospect of it now should make us moderate our sorrows and
refrain our tears. 3. As to worldly enjoyments: Those that
rejoice should be as though they rejoiced not; that is, they
should not take too great a complacency in any of their comforts.
They must be moderate in their mirth, and sit loose to the
enjoyments they most value. Here is not their rest, nor are these
things their portion; and therefore their hearts should not be set
on them, nor should they place their solace or satisfaction in
them. 4. As to worldly traffic and employment: Those that buy
must be as though they possessed not. Those that prosper in
trade, increase in wealth, and purchase estates, should hold these
possessions as though they held them not. It is but setting their
hearts on that which is not (
V. He enforces these advices with two
reasons:—1. The time is short,
VI. He presses his general advice by
warning them against the embarrassment of worldly cares: But I
would have you without carefulness,
36 But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry. 37 Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well. 38 So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better.
In this passage the apostle is commonly supposed to give advice about the disposal of children in marriage, upon the principle of his former determination. In this view the general meaning is plain. It was in that age, and those parts of the world, and especially among the Jews, reckoned a disgrace for a woman to remain unmarried past a certain number of years: it gave a suspicion of somewhat that was not for her reputation. "Now," says the apostle, "if any man thinks he behaves unhandsomely towards his daughter, and that it is not for her credit to remain unmarried, when she is of full age, and that upon this principle it is needful to dispose of her in marriage, he may use his pleasure. It is no sin in him to dispose of her to a suitable mate. But if a man has determined in himself to keep her a virgin, and stands to this determination, and is under no necessity to dispose of her in marriage, but is at liberty, with her consent, to pursue his purpose, he does well in keeping her a virgin. In short, he that gives her in marriage does well; but he that keeps her single, if she can be easy and innocent in such a state, does what is better; that is, more convenient for her in the present state of things, if not at all times and seasons." Note, 1. Children should be at the disposal of their parents, and not dispose of themselves in marriage. Yet, 2. Parents should consult their children's inclinations, both to marriage in general and to the person in particular, and not reckon they have uncontrollable power to do with them, and dictate to them, as they please. 3. It is our duty not only to consider what is lawful, but in many cases, at least, what is fit to be done, before we do it.
But I think the apostle is here continuing his former discourse, and advising unmarried persons, who are at their own disposal, what to do, the man's virgin being meant of his virginity. Terein ten heautou parthenon seems to be rather meant of preserving his own virginity than keeping his daughter a virgin, though it be altogether uncommon to use the word in this sense. Several other reasons may be seen in Locke and Whitby, by those who will consult them. And it was a common matter of reproach among Jews and civilized heathens, for a man to continue single beyond such a term of years, though all did not agree in limiting the single life to the same term. The general meaning of the apostle is the same, that it was no sin to marry, if a man thought there was a necessity upon, to avoid popular reproach, much less to avoid the hurrying fervours of lust. But he that was in his own power, stood firm in his purpose, and found himself under no necessity to marry, would, at that season, and in the circumstances of Christians at that time, at least, make a choice every way most for his own conveniency, ease, and advantage, as to his spiritual concerns. And it is highly expedient, if not a duty, for Christians to be guided by such a consideration.
39 The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord. 40 But she is happier if she so abide, after my judgment: and I think also that I have the Spirit of God.
The whole is here closed up with advice to
widows: As long as the husband liveth the wife is bound by the
law, confined to one husband, and bound to continue and cohabit
with him. Note, The marriage-contract is for life; death only can
annul the bond. But, the husband being dead, she is at liberty
to marry whom she will. There is no limitation by God's law to
be married only for such a number of times. It is certain, from
this passage, that second marriages are not unlawful; for then the
widow could not be at liberty to marry whom she pleased, nor to
marry a second time at all. But the apostle asserts she has such a
liberty, when her husband is dead, only with a limitation that
she marry in the Lord. In our choice of relations, and
change of conditions, we should always have an eye to God. Note,
Marriages are likely to have God's blessing only when they are made
in the Lord, when persons are guided by the fear of God, and the
laws of God, and act in dependence on the providence of God, in the
change and choice of a mate—when they can look up to God, and
sincerely seek his direction, and humbly hope for his blessing upon
their conduct. But she is happier, says the apostle, if
she so abide (that is, continue a widow) in my judgment; and
I think I have the Spirit of God,